Some of the groups I'm in have posed questions about when is it too old to believe in Santa. While the maiden has on and off mentioned she still believes over the years since she has gotten older, this year she never mentioned anything until Christmas Eve. She wrote a note, poured a glass of … Continue reading A Day Late … but Santa Arrived
At first I wasn't sure how I was going to end this series. When I wrote the original post in 2016 all the wishes were together, and this one flowed with the rest. As a stand alone it wasn't going to have much to it. In the original post I wrote that she didn't ask … Continue reading 12 Wishes for My Daughter and FASD: 2020 Edition
If my daughter had a time machine, she may choose to go back in time and be born without FASD. But if she chose that I would never have become her mum. My wish is that she could go back in time, receive a diagnosis earlier and therefore receive supports and interventions to lessen the struggles we … Continue reading Wish #11 for My Daughter and FASD: A Time Machine
During the adoption process, no one provided me with any education or training on FASD. No plan was established should I require access to services. We have been though some really trying times. Many people used to ask me, given what we have been through, would I still adopt my daughter if I could do … Continue reading FASD Wish 10/12: Know she is loved
In Ontario (Canada) a 2016 report Nowhere to Turn for Adults with Developmental Disabilities discovered over 14,000 adults with a development disability were on wait lists for services such as: respite, housing, job support or day programs. The wait for services, depending on the type and area is three years - 20 years! My wish is all adults with a developmental disability, including those with FASD, that require support receive the services they need when they turn 18, without delay.
My daughter said she wants to live with me forever. When she was young, I told her she could live with me for as long as she needed to. She tells me she is terrified of living without me – that she does not know how she will manage. While she was not ready to … Continue reading An FASD Wish: Confidence in her Future
In 2016 I wrote a blog post called 12 Wishes for FASD and My Daughter. It was a combination of things I wanted in terms of FASD awareness and things I wanted for my daughter. I did update it in 2017 - 12 Wishes A Year Later - but have not been back to look at it through the lens of another 3 years. Over the next 12 days I will update for the 2020 edition. Today we look at friendships.
The maiden and I went on a little road trip last week to pick up some rain gutters someone was giving away. I asked her to come along as I was going to have to the hatch open on the back of the car, with them hanging out, and I just wanted her to hang … Continue reading Connecting with Gutters
It’s strange and wonderful... even magical how the world works. After having a really defeating week last week, Monday arrived and the universe sent me a message to remind me that even in the middle of difficult times, if we remain open, we can find moments of magic to lift our spirits. This week is … Continue reading Our Magical Day
I've been thinking about grief and loss for awhile now. We know many caregivers for individuals with FASD experience grief and loss. We hear others say, "Oh, that's grief and loss!" - but what do we really know about it? Most of the information available on grief and loss is about death. Or in relation … Continue reading FASD: Grief and Loss for Caregivers