Day 18 of 99 Days to FASDay: Your Values vs. Their Needs


Even though today’s FASD strategy tip or NB approach is huge, I won’t offer much to illustrate as it’s self-explanatory. It is a difficult one for parents of any child to follow. We want to instill values in our children – the values we hold near and dear – but your child is a unique individual with his or her own needs, wants and desires. Your job is to teach him/her, but also to let him/her be free to develop in his/her own way. Give your child the freedom on things that really don’t matter in the long term. Is not brushing her hair such a big deal?

Before I adopted the maiden a co-worker said to me: “If your daughter wants to wear a hat to bed, let her.” In other words, “don’t sweat the small stuff” and give your child some control over his or her own life.

A couple more days of NB approach tips before we move on to another focus. But don’t worry, we have lots of time left in our 99 day countdown to FASDay to offer more practical, as well as educational and Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder awareness tips!

3 thoughts on “Day 18 of 99 Days to FASDay: Your Values vs. Their Needs

  1. mommamimzy says:

    I just stumbled across this looking for something else,and wouldn’t you know – divine intervention – I was just looking at my 10 yo (fasd) daughter’s hair this morning and was thinking there is no way she brushed that — but she has a smile on her face and her favorite head band in among the tangles. So, I’m letting it go, kissed her cheeks and told her she looked beautiful!!. THANK YOU for the reminder!!

    • our sacred breath says:

      Thanks for taking the time to comment on the post and sharing your story and how it touched your life. I put these out there and never know who they reach – so I was so pleased to hear how it touched you and your daughter.

      What a great honour to your daughter to just kiss her and tell her she was beautiful!

      I can certainly relate to your story so much so thanks again for taking time to comment!