I think one area I have always been good at is supporting and advocating for the maiden in the school system. That doesn’t mean I was always able to get her the accommodations she required, it just means I always supported her and tried to educate the teachers and principals about her strengths and challenges. I took an active interest in what was happening and I spoke up (as best as I could) when something wasn’t working.
She had a fabulous grade two teacher and principal who “got FASD” which started her off with great support in the first year I adopted her. The communication book always had entries, but the teacher and principal were fabulous, understanding and accommodating. Not so much for most of the rest of her school experience.
I found when a teacher understood the behaviour and provided accommodation and guidance, the maiden soared. When her behaviour was misunderstood or thought of as intentional and not a brain based disability, she floundered. In 10 years of school there have been 4 teachers that used a neurological based approach. The other six years were disrupted school years with more time spent at home sick, refusing to go, or being pulled out to be taught at home.
I never forced the maiden to be in an unwelcoming or unsupportive environment. Grades were not the most important. Effort was. I was never more proud of her when she kept going back and trying again. But I never forced her.
As I write this she is at school for her last day of grade 12. Next week she graduates high school. I never thought it would happen. And in September she begins a 2 year college program for students with developmental disabilities. I am worried about how she will cope, but I am hopeful the environment will be far above what the public school system was like.
Regardless of the future, next week we will celebrate the accomplishment of graduating high school. School has definitely been a very difficult road for the maiden, not paved, but full of potholes and detours – but she did the best she could and that is all I ever asked of her.
Come back tomorrow for another NB strategy tip for FASD.